I picked up Elmer's middle name from his marriage license, and on R.'s suggestion used it to do a little googling. This found me someone on an Iowa website involving a park named after a mutual ancestor -- they were asking where that middle name came from (it turns up a lot). No answer to her question, but I found her on facebook and turned up and e-mail address and we are indeed related (she would be my mother's cousin) and _she sent me pictures_!!!! Old pictures of shared ancestors.
*do a little happy dance*
And she confirmed that Elmer did indeed lead a very adventurous life.