"The reader will be interested to know that I have discovered a means of removing almost all of the characteristics that define Asperger's syndrome in any child or adult...If you are a parent, take your child with Asperger's syndrome to his or her bedroom. Leave the child alone in the bedroom and close the door behind you as you walk out of the room. The signs of Asperger's syndrome in your son or daughter have now disappeared."
Attwood isn't kidding, at least not entirely, and even tho he leaves the adult version of this as an exercise for the reader. He then goes on to tick off how this relates to the diagnostic criteria: no one else = no qualitative impairment in social interaction. No one to talk to, no speech and language peculiarities. I'd argue with that one, actually -- it's more a matter of no one to notice or care about the speech and language peculiarities. I talk to myself all the time and even I can tell I exhibit all my language oddities when I'm alone, even more so than when other people are around. You can do whatever you want as long as you like and no one will notice that it is "abnormal either in intensity or focus". That's not true either; I've heard from my cousin's kid all about her younger brother spending all his time in his room on the computer, and then not wanting to talk about anything else whenever he comes out.
So he's really wrong, that the signs go away in solitude, but he's really right that not having a bunch of judgmental people interfering with you is restorative, and that in our culture, the bedroom is often a place where you can modify the sensory environment to be less toxic. He also notes that a lot of us learn really well in solitude, if we have access to things like books, TVs, computers and so forth to learn from.
Attwood's chapter on Social Understanding and Friendship is really excellent. There are things I would quibble with (see above, and 1-1 on Social Stories TM describing, affirming and consolidating existing abilities and knowledge and what the child does well is _definitely_ only a minimum; cognitive research suggests it should be more like 3-1 or more to avoid the stories being associated with ignorance or failure).
On page 180: "Over time there is a progression to multiple and more abstract or complex interests such as periods of history, specific countries or cultures. Some children develop two or more simultaneous interests and the number of simultaneous interests increases with maturity." I had a sort of sinking feeling, and thought of what I had just put up in the Sticky here on LJ. Geez. Could I be any more representative.
A little while later, "For adolescents and adults, the search for the pattern or rules of life can include a fascination not only for the laws of science but the rules of law, leading to a career in the legal profession, and religious laws with a subsequent interest in the Bible and fundamental religions. This can also provide access to a peer group who share the same beliefs and a community with similar values. However, one [walkitout here: _who_, specifically?] must be careful that as a consequence of social vulnerability the person with Asperger's syndrome is not unwittingly recruited into extreme organizations. This can occur when the interest is politics, and the person expresses and acts upon 'black and white', or extreme views."
Swap "politics" for "religion" and you've described several generations on both sides of my family. I come from Mennonites and Jehovah's Witnesses (before they adopted the name Jehovah's Witness). I had figured out that "crazy religion" ran in the family. I was _just starting to entertain_ the idea that the "crazy religion" thing and the "autism" thing were one and the same. Where was this paragraph when I needed it?
Full review to follow at some point; in the mean time, worth reading. I bought this a while ago, but it was tough going at first. But having watched the EI people in action, and what the school has to offer, it's a lot easier to read now. It is what it is. I am what I am. You aren't going to _change_ us, altho you probably have some tips and tricks that we'll find helpful.
Just another cookbook or how to book. Those are easy.