And can a reader find lube in a romance novel? Of course not. (Not even, I might add, in a book in which a post-menopausal women is depicted as getting it on three times in one night, altho that was in no way relevant to urban fantasy.)
Fortunately, there doesn't seem to be anyone wandering around these books clueless as to what is going to happen (go visit a Regency for that hilarity). Sarah and Candy did an excellent job describing common author errors in writing sex scenes in their vastly entertaining _The Smart Bitches' Guide to Romance Novels_ (location of the hymen, being most notable, but they also talk about recovery time for men). In general, there aren't that many virgins wandering around (altho there are a few). There is a lot of emphasis put on how big the outie is vs. how tight and wet the innie is, but I'm prepared to overlook that.
What I have more trouble with is that characters in urban fantasy don't seem to worry about STDs at _all_. Now, in some instances, this is explicitly covered: vampires can smell infected blood, vampires have special powers to filter out the Badness, werewolves are immune, blah, blah, bleeping blah. In the 2nd book in the Immortals After Dark, the (still mortal) witch has a contraceptive patch which she insists on using, even tho the werewolf wants to knock her up as quick as possible to prove to himself that she is his Mate. She's not going for that, cause until she converts to immortal, having the 2-3 offspring litter of a 7 foot tall Lykae will probably kill her. This strikes me as an interesting conversation to be having (altho a bit reminiscent of some of the themes in Stephanie Myers books), but I also have to wonder: just because it isn't making the werewolf sick doesn't mean he's not still a carrier. Why doesn't anyone worry about that?
If you remapped all the werewolves and vampires and whatever to some ethnic group, all that stuff about their big dicks goes from being HAAAWWWTTT to being a problematic stereotype. And all that Forbidden Love/what will my coven think becomes all-of-my-family-and-friends-are-raging-b
I'd kinda still like to have the leaps tall buildings, kicks serious butt, recovers from major trauma quickly qualities. But could someone please make the worrisome parallels Go Away? Or better still, put a hat on that before you stick it anywhere.